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The News

Hi, everyone,

This is bluestalking, posting on behalf of Philia and her family.

Philia passed away on Tuesday morning (the first day of spring). She was not in pain, it happened in her sleep, and she was in the company of her family.

Thank you to everyone who has posted about her or commented on Sounis already. Her family has access to the comments there, and here on her journal. If you want your comments elsewhere to be passed along to them, let me know and I am happy to help you. Thank you to everyone for being such supportive friends and such a good community, through this and through everything. Philia really loved her friends here on LJ, and we're really lucky that we got to love her back.



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Mar. 23rd, 2012 02:59 am (UTC)
My heart breaks for you, Dr C and Wildcat. I felt close to Philia immediately, even though I only met her twice in person. She was special to me.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Mar. 23rd, 2012 05:31 am (UTC)
I left a comment on bluestalkings's journal. Can you pass it on to philia's family?

Miss her so much. I can't begin to explain, and I've never even met her.


Mar. 23rd, 2012 07:00 pm (UTC)
So sorry to hear this.

I'm sad that I didn't get to meet Philia in person, and guilty of almost entirely dropping out of communication these last couple of years, and happy that I knew her online. I very much enjoyed "talking" to her on LJ and Chatzy.

My sympathies to all of Philia's family and friends. Thank-you 'guin for performing the hard task of breaking the news, and virtual hugs. (I've met you so I hope you don't mind.) Dr C and Wildcat, we haven't met and haven't talked, but Philia sometimes mentioned you. I've been in your position and it was heartbreaking and life-changing. My thoughts are with you, and I'm sorry I can't help in any real way.

Mar. 23rd, 2012 11:00 pm (UTC)
I don't have anything eloquent to say. But, Dr. C and Wildcat, I am so sorry, and I was glad to know Philia. She was kind, and she always had some bit of wisdom to give.
Mar. 24th, 2012 12:17 am (UTC)
Dang, if it isn't like me to be so caught up in what I wanted to say that I forgot to log in. That last, anonymous, comment was from me.

I hope it went through.

But in case it didn't, because some things are important enough to be said twice.

I thought of Philia often this past weekend, because I was back at the Novel Writing Retreat where we met, and where we both were a year ago. I knew things were iffy with her, but somehow, I hoped, we would meet again there one day.

I will miss her more than I can say. We had a lot in common--writing, only daughters, being tall. I enjoyed her unique voice, whether it was in the memorable first chapter she read for the Open Mike in Noble Hall, the mood of which, I only now realized, influenced the tone of a fairy tale retelling I am working on now, or whether it was one of her delightful Evil Coffee Shop tales, which I savored and looked forward to reading whenever she posted one.

Wildcat, Dr. C, my thoughts are with you. May you be comforted in your time of grief, and may you find peace in the memories of all Philia was.


Edited at 2012-03-24 12:18 am (UTC)
Mar. 24th, 2012 06:34 am (UTC)
I am so sorry to hear this. I was out of touch the last few weeks, and missed her last post. I was hoping she would get more years with her family - she often talked about how proud she was of you, Wildcat, and how she didn't want to leave you.

I'm glad I knew Philia and will miss her comments and posts greatly, and hate that I won't get to meet her in person as I think we would have had a ball. I wish she had gotten to see her book published, but am glad I got to read it while I was able to tell her how much I enjoyed it.

My thoughts are with her friends and family.
Mar. 24th, 2012 02:23 pm (UTC)
I have nothing to say that hasn't already been said, but I am also glad to have known Philia, even if just over the internet. I enjoyed her posts, the writing she shared with us, her comments and insights on everything. She is missed.

Mar. 24th, 2012 09:26 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much for telling us, again. I truly miss her and I am so grateful that I knew her. She really opened me up to new ideas about writing and reading with her stories and notes about life and the Vermont writers thing (which sounds so fun), and as long as I've known her I've thought about her whenever I've seen a sign for an Aikido dojo.
Mar. 25th, 2012 06:30 pm (UTC)
I was saddened when I read the news. I am so sorry. Please accept my condolences.

Mar. 27th, 2012 04:25 am (UTC)
She was lovely. I was her last nurse. We connected briefly and discussed books and movies and offbeat British humor and the old star trek. I had just read the Paris wife and she encouraged me to watch woody Allen's midnight in Paris which I enjoyed very much. I am glad I haven gotten to know her through reading the pages. I extend my condolences to her beautiful family whom she had to leave too soon.
Mar. 28th, 2012 01:07 am (UTC)
I met Philia in person once (at a MWT book signing). My heart goes out to her family and friends.

Thank you, Philia, for the Evil Coffee Shop stories. We miss you.
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